Sunday, 9 June 2013

My Mum...(edited)

I am very sad to say that my Mum passed away on Friday evening.  As you know she has been suffering from Alzheimer's for a while and she has been in a nursing home since January 2012,  I got a call late Friday evening to say I should come.  I didn't get there in time.  They tell me that she had a massive stroke and it was very quick, which was good.  My first words when I saw her was what a relief that she wasn't suffering anymore, Alzheimer's is such a cruel cruel disease.  We have watched our Mum deteriorate over the past months into someone who wasn't our Mum.  We last saw her on Thursday and she was as well as she could be and I managed to make her smile when I teased my sister about her shoes..( my sister had  surgery on her toe and she was wearing socks with sandals..not a good look have some pics of my Mum..
According to the inscription on the back of this one she was about 2yrs with an uncle...

She is 18yrs in this one..My Dad carried this pic with him during the War.

These were taken in the 60's I think she was mid thirties.. Such


and here she is with my first Yorkie 'Poppy'

Minnie Doris Morley 1925 - 2013
My Mum.

Edit:..I have to tell you this...since Mum has been in the nursing home we have had so many issues about her care..mainly about not combing her hair..or her bed not being as comfy as we would like it to be...or them not noticing she didn't have her hearing aid and not searching properly for it.  I've lost count of the heated exchanges I had with the (male) manager there..and we also made a formal complaint to the head office.  We had assurances that things are changing ..and we had heard that the manager was on his final warning to pull up his socks (we weren't the only family that had made complaints)..well today he surpassed himself...I had to call the home to see what I need to do now that Mum has passed away....he didn't know she had died!!!!!!..'oh no one left a note on my desk' he said..well I went ballistic!!!! He is in charge of the home...he is suppose to be looking after the residents surely that when he starts work after the weekend he makes his business to find out what has occurred in his absence....I have spoken to his manager tonight...she called me...and she will investigate and get back to me later in the week.  Don't we have enough to deal with?? I swear if he was in front of me I would have swung for him!!
Thank you all for your lovely comments, they have given me and my family great comfort.



  1. So so sorry to hear you sad news. Your mum will be at peace now, no more suffering. My thoughts are with you and your family,
    Big hugs Kelly.

  2. So sorry about your Mum Jan, but glad she is now at peace, take care of yourself hun,
    Big Hugs Julie P

  3. Oh Jan your blog post has pulled at my heart strings, my thoughts go out to you. I echo what everyone else has said She is at peace now and your memories will carry you through this difficult time.
    Your Mum was So Beautiful, every photograph she looks stunning in.
    Thinking of you.

  4. Hugs! I lost my brother Peter to Alzheimers in January. He was very ill and did not know anyone anymore.

  5. I'm so very very sorry Jan. There's nothing I can do that will make it easier but to say that you are in my thoughts. Big hugs, Brigitte

  6. Glad you have photos to keep her even closer!!! I am so sorry for you but as you say glad that she is no longer suffering. I am also sorry you did not get there before. Big hugs and keep you in my thoughts!

  7. Oh hun, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. What a beautiful lady your mum was. You are right, it is such a cruel disease. My heart and prayers are with you and the family. Hugs Sxx

  8. My thoughts are with you Jan at this very sad time. Some lovely pictures of a beautiful lady.
    Hugs Sharon x

  9. Thinking of you Jan,such sad news but as you say your mum won't be suffering anymore.Such beautiful photo's too, some lovely memories for you, which you will always have.:) hugs Viv xx

  10. Oh Sweetie I am so very sorry for your loss... Your dear Mum was such a lovely lady... Thank you for sharing your photos with us... Sending you lots and lots of hugs... Take care Jan...

  11. So very sorry for your loss and I sincerely hope that manager loses his job, taking good care of our elderly is a great responsibility and he doesn't sound like a trustworthy type.


  12. Jan, I am so sad to hear of your loss and for the awful way that manager runs his home. That's just not acceptable. :-(
    My thoughts are with you at this sad time for you xxx